As you know, we are trying to get a surrogate to have our own baby. The costs with this are astronomical. Anywhere from $90,000-$140,000!!! We, like most people, don’t have this kind of money lying around. I started a GoFundMe campaign (www.gofundme.com/babyforsivleys) but I just don’t see how we can raise this money. I have contacted all of the local newspapers, and radio stations to see if they would share our story on their social media pages, but no one has written me back. I also contacted all of the local news tv stations and their anchors. Most haven’t responded, a few did saying good luck but no, and Owen Conflenti from KPRC 2 did share it on his Facebook page for us. I’ve also been writing to Ellen every single day. We applied for a loan today, but we were only approved for $20,000, which does not come close to covering the costs. My friend offered to be our surrogate, but had to rescind due to not being able to handle emotionally giving up a baby, which I 100% understand, but it still hurts. I wish she had considered all options before offering. I had several other people offer, but they had never given birth and that is one of the requirements, just in case something happens. I have also had a couple of strangers offer who wanted more than I could afford. Others who have offered have either been too old, or unable to have children (why offer then, idk.) I have also had some not so nice messages about how we shouldn’t be asking for this money
Then one girl from my pen pal group offered. And it was so generous and I really thought it would work. She asked for a price we could afford and everything seemed like it would work out. But she also had to rescind her offer because it is not only illegal in her state, it is criminal to take any compensation for surrogacy.
I know it doesn’t seem like we have been doing this for very long, and things might turn around. But I tried to get pregnant for 4 years before I had to have a hysterectomy. And then it took me 4 years to get over the fact that I can’t have my own children and convince my husband we could use a surrogate. So really, I’ve been trying to do this and have a baby for just over 8 years.
Without help, this will not happen. If I take the loan and literally sell everything I own, I still don’t come close to having enough money.